Start Doing and be in charge of your life
Today, your daily routine can be mundane and stressful. Yet, while living out this part of our life, most of us have a project we dream about, whether it’s to write a bestseller, repaint your room or to start your own business. Charismatic individuals are doers, go-getters and persist to drive towards their dreams. Self-improvement is important on top of your field knowledge. As 2015 come to the final quarter, its time to do something above and beyond. One secret that I have discovered on my journey, is that your success in life will be in direct proportion to what you do after you do what you are expected to do. Rediscover and ignite your innate desires, or even just to fire spices back in your work and life once again.
To get started, I recommend “Daddy’s Logic” by Anthony A. Rose (Publisher: McGraw Hill)
Here are 5 ways how you can enhance yourself at work and in life.
1. Create your personal charisma statement – Mine was simply “With fun-lovingness and dedication, I engage, inspire, excite and excel others to look good and feel good to achieve desired results.” This meant starting my own business as a coach to help individuals and business owners get what they want out of their life and business. Formulating this sentence allows us to create a short charisma statement that summarizes exactly what we want from life, which will help to keep it in the forefront of our minds when we’re making important decisions. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. The same philosophy holds true for making changes in your life. Making small, positive changes, creating some small productive habits, for example – is an amazing way to get excited about life. Keeping an open mind, don’t judge, We all have our own unique path.
2. Excel at what you do – People watch what you do more than they listen to what you say. Be someone worth emulating. Most people are inspired by GREAT musicians, writers, painters, speakers, entrepreneurs, engineers, mothers, fathers, athletes, etc. There’s only one thing they all have in common: They excel at what they do. There’s no point in doing something if you aren’t going to do it right. Excel at your work and excel at your hobbies. Develop a reputation for yourself, a reputation for consistent excellence. Besides this, strive to achieve higher consciousness comes from your commitment to personal growth. You’re a totally different person compared to who you were at this time last year; next year will be no different. How much you grow and who you become is up to you. But remember, the acquisition of knowledge doesn’t mean you’re growing; growing happens when what you know changes how you live. And to do that, concentrate your efforts on smaller and smaller areas. When your efforts are diffused over a wide area they won’t have much of an impact. So focus on smaller areas and your efforts will be felt more fully. It could take time for change to happen, but keep that focus narrow.
3. Positivity Rules – Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. The mind must believe it can do something before it is capable of actually doing it. So be aware of your mental self-talk. We all talk silently to ourselves in our heads, but we aren’t always conscious of what we’re saying or how it’s affecting us. Start listening to your thoughts. If you hear negative thoughts, stop for a second and replace them with positive thoughts. As the Dalai Lama once said, “The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful.” Thus, be kind to yourself. If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend? The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. You must love who you are or no one else will. Lastly, Slow down. Breathe. Give yourself permission to pause, regroup and move forward with clarity and purpose. When you’re at your busiest, a brief recess can rejuvenate your mind and increase your productivity. These short breaks will help you regain your sanity and reflect on your recent actions so you can be sure they’re in line with your goals.
4. Solve problems not avoid them – Part of living and growing up is experiencing unexpected troubles in life. People lose jobs, get sick, and sometimes die in car accidents. When you are younger, and things are going pretty well, this harsh reality can be hard to visualize. The smartest, and oftentimes hardest, thing we can do in these kinds of situations is to be tempered in our reactions. To want to scream obscenities, but to be wiser and more disciplined than that. To remember that emotional rage only makes matters worse. And to remember that tragedies are rarely as bad as they seem, and even when they are, they give us an opportunity to grow stronger. Everything is a life lesson. Everyone you meet, everything you encounter, etc. They’re all part of the learning experience we call ‘life.’ Never forget to acknowledge the lesson, especially when things don’t go your way. If you don’t get a job you wanted or a relationship doesn’t work, it only means something better is out there waiting. And the lesson you just learned is the first step towards it.
5. Tap & leverage on your resources – It’s not about having access to countless resources; it’s about exploiting the resources you do have access to. Stevie Wonder couldn’t see, so he exploited his sense of hearing into a passion for music, and he now has 25 Grammy Awards to prove it. What resources do you have access to that you are not using? Successful people are objective. They have realistic targets in mind. They know what they are looking for and why they are fighting for it. Successful people create and pursue S.M.A.R.T. goals. S.M.A.R.T. goals are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time sensitive. When you identify S.M.A.R.T. goals that are truly important to you, you become motivated to figure out ways to attain them. You develop the necessary attitude, abilities, and skills. You can achieve almost any goal you set if you plan your steps wisely and establish a time frame that allows you to carry out those steps. Goals that once seemed far away and out of reach eventually move closer and become attainable, not because your goals shrink, but because you grow and expand to match them. Start taking action and making changes. Action and change are often resisted when they’re needed most. Get a hold of yourself and have discipline. Discipline is choosing what you really want over what you want right now. Putting something off makes it instantly harder and scarier. What we don’t start today won’t be finished by tomorrow. And there’s nothing more stressful than the perpetual lingering of an unfinished task.
A dream is a goal with deadline. A dream without a deadline is just building castles in the air. You might fail. And that’s OK. Failures are simply stepping stones to success. No matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be. Either you succeed or you learn something. Win-Win. The biggest mistake you can make is doing nothing because you’re too scared to make a mistake. If you can’t handle failure, then you can’t handle success either. Good luck!
Genecia Alluora is a celebrity charisma and personal branding coach who help others look good and feel good to achieve their desired results. She is South East Asia Woman of Excellence 2010, and Miss Singapore Universe. Besides being regularly featured on TV, Genecia is currently hosting a talkshow “Charisma & Leadership” on Youtube, and catch her every Tuesday 4pm on Mediacorp Radio LOVE 972FM sharing on “7 Habits of Charisma Mastery”. She is also the current face of Loreal for their Youth Code Boosting Essence. Her clientele includes Directors, CEOs, Politicians, Artistes and celebrities in Asia.